48 Case Studies 31: Bert, The Flesh Cutter

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Biff’s friend, Bert, is known for being a practical joker. Bert’s sense of humor is a strength that has endeared him to many, but like most strengths, it has become his greatest weakness. Bert rarely allows for serious conversations, leaning heavily on verbal sparring through sarcasm and mocking, which always dominates the conversations. Being with Bert is like a competitive event, often putting others down in front of their peers.

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As a ministry leader, Bert’s over-the-top communication style becomes a stumbling block. His constant jesting draws attention to himself rather than to the Lord, and his team members are guarded and restrained when he is present. One team member lamented,

You never know when you’re going to get hit with a verbal jab.

Ironically, when Bert is absent, his team becomes more outgoing, thoughtful, and prayerful. Sadly, Bert’s behavior has begun to influence others, with many of his friends mimicking his conduct. This environment leaves little room for Christlike encouragement, prayer, or spiritual growth. Biff approaches you for counsel on how to address Bert’s behavior. Feeling unequipped because he is “just a church member,” Biff struggles with how to confront a leader in a loving yet truthful way.

Case Study Questions

1. What is your theology on the tongue?
2. How would you guide Biff?
3. What are your guidelines about lightheartedness 
versus seriousness?

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Rick Thomas

Rick launched the Life Over Coffee global training network in 2008 to bring hope and help for you and others by creating resources that spark conversations for transformation. His primary responsibilities are resource creation and leadership development, which he does through speaking, writing, podcasting, and educating.

In 1990 he earned a BA in Theology and, in 1991, a BS in Education. In 1993, he received his ordination into Christian ministry, and in 2000 he graduated with an MA in Counseling from The Master’s University. In 2006 he was recognized as a Fellow of the Association of Certified Biblical Counselors (ACBC).