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Mable’s husband has been living in adultery for over five years. Recently she found a receipt in his wallet from a local bar. After some questions, an argument, and a visit to the bar, Mable figured out about the affair.
Mable is angry, hurt, and unforgiving. She can’t bring up the topic without crying. She also admits she has a “nagging” problem and has rarely encouraged or shown respect to her husband during the fifteen years of their marriage.
You are now in a dilemma. Though Mable is the victim of a heinous sin, she is not innocent entirely of the fifteen years of marriage problems. She is not guilty of Biff’s choices, but his adultery did not happen in a vacuum.
It is evident that Biff has sinned big time. Not only has he committed adultery, but he was a terrible husband before the adultery. He is willing to talk about these things, repent and turn his life around. But Mable has contributed in a significant way to the demise of the marriage too.
Rick launched the Life Over Coffee global training network in 2008 to bring hope and help for you and others by creating resources that spark conversations for transformation. His primary responsibilities are resource creation and leadership development, which he does through speaking, writing, podcasting, and educating.
In 1990 he earned a BA in Theology and, in 1991, a BS in Education. In 1993, he received his ordination into Christian ministry, and in 2000 he graduated with an MA in Counseling from The Master’s University. In 2006 he was recognized as a Fellow of the Association of Certified Biblical Counselors (ACBC).