Marriage Day 12 – The Most Important Thing

Marriage Day 12 – The Most Important Thing

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What is the most crucial quality that you would like to have in your life? Of all the qualities to choose from, there is a transcending quality that should be at the top of your list. That one exceeding quality is the glory of God. If your desire to glorify God is the chief aim of your life, there is a fantastic chance you will experience a meaningful and satisfying marriage, even when your spouse does not meet your expectations.

So, whether you eat or drink, or whatever you do, do all to the glory of God (1 Corinthians 10:31).

There is nothing that transcends this God-centered quality in His image-bearers. If your chief aim in life is to spread the fame of God, you can be comforted by the fact that even sin or sinful temptations will not overcome your dogged and unflinching determination to be like Jesus everywhere you go (Ephesians 5:1).

And whenever sin does make its advances, your habit of glorifying God will win the war against sin’s intent. When the guardian of your heart is the glory of the Lord, you’re in the best place to be a good friend, a great lover, and a wonderful spouse. There are many options available to help you more effectively glorify God. Here are three of them:

Passion – Everyone is passionate about something, and that “something” defines you. Nobody lacks passion. If you look long enough, you will find the thing that makes you emote. Desires to have a great job, rear spiritual children, and build a secure future, but when it comes to the Lord, there must be a preeminent longing for His glory that is so high that all other “loves” look like hate by comparison (Luke 14:26-27).

Repentance – Nobody has been able to pull off perfection but Jesus. Your lack of complete sanctification means you and your spouse are imperfect sinners on your best days. Your spouse has sinned against you and God, and you have done similarly. You do not have to be discouraged by this if your chief aim is to glorify God. Glorifying God does not imply perfection.

Living a perfect life is contrary to the Bible—for all have sinned (Romans 3:23), and if anyone says they don’t sin, they are liars (1 John 1:7-10). But do not fear; there is good news. A person whose primary goal is to glorify God has a great backup plan because that person is a repenting person. Though you will have lapses in judgment, like when you do something unkind to your spouse, you will respond quickly with a broken-hearted confession (Psalm 51:17) and a request for forgiveness.

Community – A God-impassioned, repenting person will seek similar friends. You will always find your kind. The question then becomes, “What kind of people are you pursuing?” The Lord wired you with a herd mentality, which is why you seek community. You long for a community because God made you in His image; you reflect the original community’s image (Genesis 1:26-27). You can measure an individual by assessing their associations—the things they try to fill their lives with, and nobody surrounds themselves with things they do not like.

Time to Reflect

  1. Does your desire to glorify God give you the wisdom and perseverance to spread the fame of God even when your marriage is not meeting your expectations?
  2. How can you more effectively glorify God in your marriage, especially when things do not go your way?

Practical Suggestion

Rank the three tools that help you glorify God—passion, repentance, and community. Which of those three do you need more help in developing? Find a mentor (preferably your spouse) to develop a plan to change what you need to change so you can more effectively spread the fame of God in your life and marriage.

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