What were the practical things you did when you first won your spouse’s affection? Are you still doing them, or has the pace of life diverted your attention from those marriage priorities? Go back to the giddy time in your relationship. Do you remember those carefree and silly days when it was just you two? Those days do not have to remain in your past. It was essential to Lucia and me that we kept fighting to keep the “dating experience” in our “marriage experience.”