You Cannot Need Someone and Love Someone Equally

Biffy was born into a dysfunctional home. He told me that he did not remember a time when his parents were not arguing. He is 14 years old, almost 15. He said there were many nights when he would curl up in his bed, hug his “bear-y,” and cry himself to sleep. Mable, his mother, brought him to counseling because she did not know how to deal with him any longer. Biffy had been acting out lately, and as Mable said, “I’m at my wits’ end. I can’t do this anymore.” Biffy represents a conundrum in the counseling world.