A joyful heart is good medicine, but a crushed spirit dries up the bones (Proverbs 17:22).
Have you ever gotten angry at someone? Anger is a lack of humility. Have you ever become impatient with someone? Impatience is a lack of humility. The foundational character trait to any individual’s life is humility. Without humility, there is no hope for any of us because God only gives empowering, life-changing favor to the humble (James 4:6).
After Paul had finished the first three chapters of Ephesians, he transitioned his message to practically living out the gospel. Ephesians is divided neatly into two parts. An old preacher told me many years ago, “Brother Thomas, the Book of Ephesians is in two parts. Part one teaches you how to be saved. Part two teaches you how to behave.” He is correct. Paul is teaching profound theology in the first part and how to live it out in the second. And where does he begin part two? It’s humility: thinking less of yourself and more of others (Ephesians 4:1-2).
Thinking less of ourselves is one reason we laugh a lot in our home. The humble person will laugh a lot. He will especially laugh at himself. The over-sensitive, approval-driven person is not free to do this, especially at himself. He is too busy thinking too highly of himself while demanding that others also think highly of him. The thought of anyone thinking less of him, even with appropriate humor, is unbearable. It’s this kind of over-sensitivity and insecurity that kills relationships. Humor is one way to practice humility.
Laughter is a divine gift to the human who is humble. A proud man cannot laugh because he must watch his dignity; he cannot give himself over to the rocking and rolling of his belly. But a poor and happy man laughs heartily because he gives no serious attention to his ego. Only the truly humble belong to this kingdom of divine laughter. Humor and humility should keep good company. Self-deprecating humor can be a healthy reminder that we are not the center of the universe, that humility is our proper posture before our fellow humans as well as before Almighty God. – Terry Lindvall (Surprised by Laughter: The Comic World of C. S. Lewis)
Laughter is not the only response to pride, but it’s an effective one. Too many people are too serious, too angry, too hurt, and too demanding. They don’t laugh anymore unless they are laughing at others. The gospel-centered person is free to laugh at himself because he has nothing to protect, nothing to hide, and nothing to demand. He is soberly aware that the Son of God died on a cross so he can be set free from the power and bondage of sin. “If the Son sets you free, you will be free indeed (John 8:36).” The humble person is reminded daily of the gospel and quickly lives in the good of it. He is free to laugh a lot, especially at himself.
Rick launched the Life Over Coffee global training network in 2008 to bring hope and help for you and others by creating resources that spark conversations for transformation. His primary responsibilities are resource creation and leadership development, which he does through speaking, writing, podcasting, and educating.
In 1990 he earned a BA in Theology and, in 1991, a BS in Education. In 1993, he received his ordination into Christian ministry, and in 2000 he graduated with an MA in Counseling from The Master’s University. In 2006 he was recognized as a Fellow of the Association of Certified Biblical Counselors (ACBC).