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Because of our universal Adamic shame, we have collectively wrapped ourselves in the “clothes of shame” (Genesis 3:6-7), which always leaves something hidden. Having one true friend willing to love you this way is as intimate, profound, unique, or deep that you can go with God and with that person.
Because God is not a person for personal consumption alone, it is only by sharing your experience with Him that you will know Him in the way He wants you to know Him. Sadly, this kind of “fellowship” with God and others is the most often neglected aspect of two people’s lives. People can be friends, poker mates, sports buddies, sewing club members, neighbors, and marriage partners, but not engage each other as intimately as God provides through salvation and progressive sanctification.
I chose the word “fellowship” intentionally because it comes from the word koinonia, which is where we get our word community. To have fellowship with someone is to commune with them. The ultimate “community experience” is when two people reciprocally enter into the divine, eternal community of Father, Son, and Spirit.
God is a community, which we call the Trinity: Father, Son, and Spirit. Your call is to image community, which you can’t do well if you’re not in a community. You have to build a community with at least one other person. There is a reason solitary confinement is one of the worst long-term punishments a person can receive. Isolation and loneliness are painful because God made us in the image of the Divine Community.
Every person will not want to “go this far” with you. And you will be cautious about those with whom you choose to go deeper, but you must ask the Lord to give you at least one other person. Ideally, that should be your spouse if you’re married or plan on marrying. Will you become familiar with this definition of koinonia, also called biblical fellowship?
Biblical fellowship is sharing something that you have in common with another person. It goes to the deepest possible level of human relationship, which is your experience of God Himself.
Here is a list of questions that will help you to explore the possibility of enjoying a “God-centered relational experience” with another person. These questions are eclectic. You choose the one that best fits the relational situation. Perhaps you will want to add to this list. Create your personal biblical fellowship questions.
Will you find a friend and begin your relational adventure today? (If you are married, that friend should be your spouse.)
Rick launched the Life Over Coffee global training network in 2008 to bring hope and help for you and others by creating resources that spark conversations for transformation. His primary responsibilities are resource creation and leadership development, which he does through speaking, writing, podcasting, and educating.
In 1990 he earned a BA in Theology and, in 1991, a BS in Education. In 1993, he received his ordination into Christian ministry, and in 2000 he graduated with an MA in Counseling from The Master’s University. In 2006 he was recognized as a Fellow of the Association of Certified Biblical Counselors (ACBC).