Trying to be perfect in an imperfect world to garner the favorable opinion of others is a delusion that will strain any relationship, not to mention how will bind any soul to a lifetime pursuit of the un-fillable love cup. The temptation to be stuck on oneself is native to all of us because of the Adamic shame that creates an internal awkwardness, motivating the hungry soul to create a personification of themselves to convince others they are something special when none of us are—outside the grace of God. Let me illustrate how this works with my friend Mable.