If we say we have no sin, we deceive ourselves, and the truth is not in us. If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness. If we say we have not sinned, we make him a liar, and his word is not in us (1 John 1:8-10).
Here is a short list of those advantages.
What a great list, and it’s for you. I talk to parents regularly who are doing these things, and it is such an encouragement to hear their stories of grace about God’s faithfulness, primarily when sin seeks to destroy them. Of course, the opposite is also true. If you don’t practically live in gospel power, the engagement of sin in your family will be disastrous. Here are a few of those adverse effects.
Insecurity – Your children will experience your sinfulness, and it will hurt them. They will look for safety through other people and means that are outside your home.
Anger – They may walk away from God because they perceive your Christianity as a method to keep them out of trouble. It has no real impact on your life. They will also resent you.
Dishonesty – By not owning your sin, you’re essentially saying that sin does not matter. The truth is, it does exist, and it does matter. Your children will react to your lack of integrity about your sin.
Self-Righteousness – Your kids will not have the equipping to work through relational conflict. As adults, when sin happens in their relationships, instead of repenting, they may choose a similar self-righteous path of justifying, rationalizing, or blaming their sin on other people or events.
Licentiousness – Individuals who do not gain victory over sin succumb to the temptation to sin more as a response. They spin in a frustrating sin cycle. If sin is not exposed, discussed, and the family is not walking out repentance, you can pretty much guarantee more sin.
Disqualified – Your children will not only resent you, but they will not listen to your counsel, even when you are right. Your lack of being honest with yourself will influence their perspective of you, which will functionally disqualify you as a parent.
The death of Christ loudly proclaims everyone is a sinner. No Christian should hide this fact behind a wall of hypocrisy. To reject the reality of sin is to deny the gospel. One of the kindest things you can do is learn how to engage the sin in your family so they can enjoy the full benefits of the gospel.
Let your family see how you may be ashamed of your sin, but you are not ashamed of the gospel. Help release your children from the sin that hopes to trap them. You can do this if you humble yourself before God and your family and let them see the advantage of engaging sin with the gospel.
Rick launched the Life Over Coffee global training network in 2008 to bring hope and help for you and others by creating resources that spark conversations for transformation. His primary responsibilities are resource creation and leadership development, which he does through speaking, writing, podcasting, and educating.
In 1990 he earned a BA in Theology and, in 1991, a BS in Education. In 1993, he received his ordination into Christian ministry, and in 2000 he graduated with an MA in Counseling from The Master’s University. In 2006 he was recognized as a Fellow of the Association of Certified Biblical Counselors (ACBC).