What You Can Do About Accountability Cyber Effects, 7.0

What You Can Do about Accountability Cyber Effect, 7.0

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These adverse cyber effects always beg the question of the best time to give your child a phone. Part of the discussion centers on the type of phone you want to give your child. The other part centers on the kind of child you have, their maturity level, or if God has regenerated them. You also want to consider their personalities. Some children are leaders and not easily influenced; others are followers, easily tempted, or have dull to hard consciences. It could be a practical choice if you want your child to have a flip phone at an early age.

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To Give or Not

If it’s a smartphone, you need to make a few sober assessments about the maturity level of your child and the accessibility options that you want to give them. If your child has to have a smartphone because all his peers have one, you will feed his pre-existing addiction if you give him one. The addiction is peer pressure, codependency, or what the Bible calls the fear of man (Proverbs 29:25). Is it wise to give your child a phone so he won’t feel out-of-step with his peer group? It’s illogical.

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If his peers were using drugs, would you enable him so he can fit in? Do you want to provide him a false god where his ability to feel good about himself connects to his phone, not the Sovereign Lord? Wouldn’t it be better to identify and isolate the heart idolatry and teach him how he can have a bigger God while bringing his friends down a notch or two? Wouldn’t it be better that he does not succumb to the control of what he or his friends have? Don’t feed his addiction, but help him overcome the desire so he can be Christlike. He may “hate” you now but will love you later, especially if the Lord gets hold of his heart.

The best time to give a son (or daughter) a smartphone is when he is mature enough to resist the temptation of porn. When you know that pornography is not an issue in his mind or life, you can think about giving him a device that is one click away from more sexually explicit content than any generation before him could imagine or access. The best time to give your daughter (or son) a smartphone is when she does not have to be on social media. She’s not interested in those platforms, what they offer, and how they suck you into the black hole of false intimacy. If she had instead wanted to build real-world relationships, she’s in a great place, and it would be unwise to put anything in her path that would deter this good desire. If she would rather relate in cyberspace than in the real world, you have a problem that may need outside intervention.

Call to Action

  1. Does your child have a phone? What are the biblical grounds for giving them one?
  2. Describe the maturity and personality of your child and how providing a phone would be wise or unwise.
  3. Why is peer pressure so intense at a young age, what is the solution, and how is giving a phone to a child struggling with fear of man a good idea?
  4. What about the fear of man of the parent? Do you need to address your fear of disappointing your child? If so, why does your kid have that kind of power over you?
  5. What would be a biblical reason to put something so tempting before a child that could easily entice them into a lifetime of addiction and relational dysfunction?

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