Biff wants to be a pastor. To make matters worse, his parents believe in a two-tier Christian system: those who are in the ministry and those who are not. Biff is now 32 years old. His identity is wrapped up in what he does for a living, rather than the Christ who saved him.
Mable, Biff’s wife, does not like his current ministry. She hates living in a “fishbowl.” Their biggest arguments have historically centered around whatever ministry Biff was doing at the time. Mable recently told Biff that he could do whatever he wanted to do, but she would never “sign-off” on his pastoral desires, or being a pastor’s wife. She clarified that she would never divorce him, but he should never expect her to change her perspective.
Biff had hoped he could live in two worlds: marriage and ministry, but he has come to realize the tension is too much. Nobody knows what is going on in Biff’s home. He is afraid to be honest about the state of his marriage. He recently said,
If I let the Elders know, they may ask me to step down from my current ministry. I don’t want to lose what I have now.
Rick launched the Life Over Coffee global training network in 2008 to bring hope and help for you and others by creating resources that spark conversations for transformation. His primary responsibilities are resource creation and leadership development, which he does through speaking, writing, podcasting, and educating.
In 1990 he earned a BA in Theology and, in 1991, a BS in Education. In 1993, he received his ordination into Christian ministry, and in 2000 he graduated with an MA in Counseling from The Master’s University. In 2006 he was recognized as a Fellow of the Association of Certified Biblical Counselors (ACBC).