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Does this person want someone to counsel them? I’m not sure they would come to counseling if these things are true. I have counseled this type of person before, but in most cases, someone made them come to counseling.
So, I assume you’re asking how to help a person like this who is not looking for help. Here are three challenges you’ll have to overcome if you attempt to counsel him in a traditional counseling setting.
So, you said he’s Christian with a lot of pride, is self-righteous, and is difficult to teach. I recommend you engage this person outside traditional counseling contexts so it’s not always so directed and pressing.
For example, create diverse contexts and situations to build a relational bridge to help him change, i.e., Sunday morning, small talk contexts like coffee meet-ups, small group meetings, church family fun days, hospitality, and other serious and non-serious connections.
He has a lot of pride
He is self-righteous
He is unteachable
You cannot be annoyed at this person but must exercise self-control, patience, and affection for them (1 Thessalonians 5:14).
Rick launched the Life Over Coffee global training network in 2008 to bring hope and help for you and others by creating resources that spark conversations for transformation. His primary responsibilities are resource creation and leadership development, which he does through speaking, writing, podcasting, and educating.
In 1990 he earned a BA in Theology and, in 1991, a BS in Education. In 1993, he received his ordination into Christian ministry, and in 2000 he graduated with an MA in Counseling from The Master’s University. In 2006 he was recognized as a Fellow of the Association of Certified Biblical Counselors (ACBC).