Podcast Question: I am hoping you can help me understand something. I am a mom of young children. Over the past couple of years, I have felt a strong conviction to stop using spanking as a tool for discipline. I was spanked as a child and I know how useless it was in the process of disciplining me, so when I became a parent and used that tool I struggled doing it.
But in the Christian culture, I feel like it is just assumed that the Bible commands us to spank and so most believers do it. When my husband and I did more research we decided to stop using spanking in our home. While that has been life changing for our family, I still really struggle with why Christians say the Bible commands it to be done.
When I look to the Word for guidance in this area I don’t see any example of spanking being practiced. In fact, I see the opposite approach with the prodigal son. I also see how Jesus loves and protects children. I don’t see a place where He commands us to spank them when they misbehave. I sit in a lot of mom circles and when this topic comes up, moms don’t know why they spank. They just do it.
This topic has brought me so much confusion and I am willing to change my view if the Lord leads me that way. I just need help understanding why I should spank if Scriptures command it. Or, am I right in believing that the verses in Proverbs are being taken out of context by the believers who do practice spanking?
Thank you for your time, I hope you can help!
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The most stunning thing about this question is the comment about moms who do not know why they do it, they just do it.
Rick launched the Life Over Coffee global training network in 2008 to bring hope and help for you and others by creating resources that spark conversations for transformation. His primary responsibilities are resource creation and leadership development, which he does through speaking, writing, podcasting, and educating.
In 1990 he earned a BA in Theology and, in 1991, a BS in Education. In 1993, he received his ordination into Christian ministry, and in 2000 he graduated with an MA in Counseling from The Master’s University. In 2006 he was recognized as a Fellow of the Association of Certified Biblical Counselors (ACBC).