Shows Main Idea – I had the sex talk with our son when he was 12. I took him to the beach for a few days to discuss the most intimate relational dynamic between a man and a woman. One of our Mastermind students asked if I would share a few details about how I went about it, similar to Lucia’s talk with our daughters. What we did is only one way to have this vital talk, and I trust these ideas and perspectives will serve you, particularly if you’re planning to speak with your children.
We wanted to get in front of what he might learn post-homeschool.
Each child is different.
Curriculum
We chose the Passport to Purity curriculum from Family Life. There are several good resources, all of which you can adapt to your child and biblio-centric worldview. You’re looking for an aid to ensure you cover the essential bases, but you must craft it to the peculiarities of each child.
Particulars
We rented a truck and drove to a beach house that a generous friend provided for us. We set aside four days for serious talks and fun times. Because of the mature subject matter, I did not want to overwhelm him. I talk about finding your starting point before counseling someone because you don’t want to assume they are somewhere on the maturation spectrum when they are not. Of course, our son was a child, not an adult, so interspersing fun with the sober conversations was perfect. Here are a few fun things we did.
Beach
Flee market
Golf car riding
Helicopter trip
Bingo
Any food he wanted
Heated pool
Jungle Book movie (two jumbo-size buttered popcorns)
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Rick launched the Life Over Coffee global training network in 2008 to bring hope and help for you and others by creating resources that spark conversations for transformation. His primary responsibilities are resource creation and leadership development, which he does through speaking, writing, podcasting, and educating.
In 1990 he earned a BA in Theology and, in 1991, a BS in Education. In 1993, he received his ordination into Christian ministry, and in 2000 he graduated with an MA in Counseling from The Master’s University. In 2006 he was recognized as a Fellow of the Association of Certified Biblical Counselors (ACBC).