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The primary attitude you want before you begin caring for another individual is affection for that person. It is unwise to attempt soul care if you do not feel love for the person you’re discipling. And the way you gain this kind of affection is by having a divine perspective about them.
A divine perspective happens when you see the individual the way God sees them. All good discipleship requires a “divine perspective” because in the “soul care business,” there is no place for thoughtless or unkind care.
If you view the person that you are counseling the way God sees them, your perspective will be correct, and you will be at the right starting point to begin the discipleship process.
Key Idea: Affection for others is rooted in your perspective of others.
In 1 Corinthians 1:4-9, you are able to see, read, and feel Paul’s attitude and affection for a group of unruly and proud people. The attitude and affection that Paul had for the Corinthians were rooted in his divine perspective of the Corinthians.
Here is how he said it at the beginning of his first letter to them.
Paul had gratitude for them (4), he acknowledged their identity in Christ (5, 6), and he had faith that God would complete what He started (7, 8, 9).
Paul’s affection for this challenging church body was a profound declaration of the grace of God in his life, and it’s an excellent template for you to think about as you approach the work of discipleship. Meaning that you must tether the motive of your heart to a divine perspective that will give you extraordinary affection for those you serve prior to serving them.
How is your heart toward unruly people?
Whether your friend needs correction, the way Paul eventually corrected the Corinthians, or your friend needs other forms of soul care, you should model Paul’s attitude and affection for the Corinthians before you begin the discipleship process.
Perhaps you’re caring for a family member, extended relative, or church member. As you think about them, assess yourself: do you have divine affection for them?
Rick launched the Life Over Coffee global training network in 2008 to bring hope and help for you and others by creating resources that spark conversations for transformation. His primary responsibilities are resource creation and leadership development, which he does through speaking, writing, podcasting, and educating.
In 1990 he earned a BA in Theology and, in 1991, a BS in Education. In 1993, he received his ordination into Christian ministry, and in 2000 he graduated with an MA in Counseling from The Master’s University. In 2006 he was recognized as a Fellow of the Association of Certified Biblical Counselors (ACBC).