I’m not talking about people who were sexually abused or types of physical harm. We all should be afraid of certain people and never go around them. I’m speaking of the “run-of-the-mill” kind of insecurity like shyness, stage fright, “fear of pastor syndrome,” and other forms of social connection where a person is in bondage.
I’m going to use the word insecurity because of its extensive use and universal understanding. And you would define it this way:
The way you begin tackling this problem is by owning it rather than making excuses for why you are this way, e.g., he’s intimidating or God made me shy. Making excuses will keep you in bondage.
Two competing verses are vying for control of the insecure person’s soul:
The most succinct way to think about this problem is to say, “There is only one opinion that matters and I’m going to submit to that one, which is God’s opinion of me.”
This concept could be a problem if you’re not secure about God’s opinion of you. E.g., adults who had awful experiences with their dads will struggle with how they relate to God the Father. Or, people who have never had good relationship models may struggle with their relationship with the Lord.
All of these issues motivate a person to be strong, not weak, because they don’t want to be exposed, found out, or hurt again. They would rather live a self-reliant life that negates the power of God in their life.
Rick launched the Life Over Coffee global training network in 2008 to bring hope and help for you and others by creating resources that spark conversations for transformation. His primary responsibilities are resource creation and leadership development, which he does through speaking, writing, podcasting, and educating.
In 1990 he earned a BA in Theology and, in 1991, a BS in Education. In 1993, he received his ordination into Christian ministry, and in 2000 he graduated with an MA in Counseling from The Master’s University. In 2006 he was recognized as a Fellow of the Association of Certified Biblical Counselors (ACBC).