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Sometimes sloganeering and cliches communicate inferior positions, e.g., love languages, and one of the worst is “believe all women,” which was compatible with the #metoo movement. When you shrink your belief model down to one perspective, you’ll never know the whole truth about a matter. The inverted belief model leaves you looking at a problem like you were viewing an issue through a tube.
Narrowing the scope of discovery to only believing the abused will not help them the way you could if you had a more extensive belief model. If you have succumbed to this type of investigatory shrinkage, please consider a few possibilities why and if any of them are true for you, please find someone to help you change.
The one who states his case first seems right, until the other comes and examines him (Proverbs 18:17).
Default to trust does not limit itself to believing only the person sharing a story. For example, if one of our children told their version of events, my default would be to believe them. Then a second child tells their side, which is different from the first, I believe them too. There is no conflict because a rational and healthy way to live is default to trust.
The key, however, is not to leave their stories alone, allowing them to coexist without more engagement and research. I want to interact with both children in good faith (trust, truth, belief), hoping to find the truth. Of course, they appreciate that I believe them, and they proceed with me as we attempt to discern the truth. A comprehensive belief model permits default to trust and more investigation. (See the infographic.)
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Rick launched the Life Over Coffee global training network in 2008 to bring hope and help for you and others by creating resources that spark conversations for transformation. His primary responsibilities are resource creation and leadership development, which he does through speaking, writing, podcasting, and educating.
In 1990 he earned a BA in Theology and, in 1991, a BS in Education. In 1993, he received his ordination into Christian ministry, and in 2000 he graduated with an MA in Counseling from The Master’s University. In 2006 he was recognized as a Fellow of the Association of Certified Biblical Counselors (ACBC).