For example, one person was pregnant and not married, and now the Christian says the baby was a child born out of wedlock so the unwed mother and the baby shouldn’t be around her child because of the mother’s sin getting pregnant and not being married to the baby’s father.”
Christian counseling is neither Christian nor counseling if it is done with without tears. – Wayne Mack
If you do not have affection and compassion for the person you are confronting, you should not confront them. That kind of needed compassion is born in the heart, given by God because the disciple has previously spent time with God before confronting the person. (See 1 Corinthians 1:1-9).
Whether they’re saved or lost, you should have “faith for the process” that the Lord has you in with the person in your care.
Core Issue: The root problem you’re talking about here is self-righteousness.
You should not refrain from assessing people, but you must be striving to be the very thing you are suggesting others to be, or you’ll be a hypocrite.
Rick launched the Life Over Coffee global training network in 2008 to bring hope and help for you and others by creating resources that spark conversations for transformation. His primary responsibilities are resource creation and leadership development, which he does through speaking, writing, podcasting, and educating.
In 1990 he earned a BA in Theology and, in 1991, a BS in Education. In 1993, he received his ordination into Christian ministry, and in 2000 he graduated with an MA in Counseling from The Master’s University. In 2006 he was recognized as a Fellow of the Association of Certified Biblical Counselors (ACBC).