Ep. 421 Ten Steps Leading to Toxic Christian Femininity

Shows Main Idea – Everyone knows about toxic masculinity, and there are just as many opinions to defend it as there are that denounce it. Have you ever thought about toxic femininity? Is it possible for a woman to be toxic? How do they become that way, and what is a path forward? The reasons they fall into the trap are real, and the dangers are tempting, but there is hope to become un-caught from this blinding sin of Christian, toxic femininity.

Show Notes

You may want to read:

• How Am I to Know When or When Not to Respond to a Fool?
• A Practical Message to Help You with That Toxic Person in Your Life
• Comprehensive Data-Gathering Is Crucial to Help Victims

Why am I producing this resource, knowing the toxic community will react harshly to it? The hope is God will transform a few hearts and instruct a few helpers.

1. They have experienced legitimate hurt from a person or entity.
2. The disappointment from legitimate harm lingers in their soul.
3. Some friends commiserate with them, cementing the pain.
4. Unabated disappointment turns to anger, bitterness, and cynicism.
5. They connect with like-minded folks, creating an echo chamber culture.
6. Their hurt forms the lens through how they filter and interpret things.
7. Reacting to their presupposition, they sound off on others angrily.
8. Any pushback about their reactions incites them, a weaponized victim.
9. They become righteous martyrs because others critique them.
10. They’re in a hermetically sealed toxic culture perpetuating toxicity.

Addressing Toxicity

1. Admit the hurt
2. Realize God uses sin sinlessly
3. There is no justification for sin
4. Resist being part of the victim culture
5. God’s grace is more significant than any offense
6. Listen to how you respond to others, e.g., on social media (disinhibition effect)
7. Seek help from someone who won’t commiserate

Helpful Resources

Webinars

• Overcoming Self-reliance
• Sympathy and Empathy
• True Guilt and False Guilt
• The Victim Identity

Read

• How a Teen Can React When Stuck in the Cyclic Effect of Victimhood
• Thinking of Yourself as Victim Is One of the Worst Things You Can Do
• How to Know If Your Victimhood Has Become Your Identity
• Reflective Study On Victimhood and the Need for Hope
• The Victim of an Unwanted Divorce Learns to Forgive
• How to Care for the Professional Victim
• Practically Navigating the Contours to Help an Abuse Victim

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Rick Thomas

Rick launched the Life Over Coffee global training network in 2008 to bring hope and help for you and others by creating resources that spark conversations for transformation. His primary responsibilities are resource creation and leadership development, which he does through speaking, writing, podcasting, and educating.

In 1990 he earned a BA in Theology and, in 1991, a BS in Education. In 1993, he received his ordination into Christian ministry, and in 2000 he graduated with an MA in Counseling from The Master’s University. In 2006 he was recognized as a Fellow of the Association of Certified Biblical Counselors (ACBC).