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I will answer the first question and then combine your final three queries afterward. You asked, “What appropriate Scripture passages will resonate with the teenager?”
As for your final three questions, I’m combining them into six categories: conviction, parents, worship, sin, habits, and community.
1: Conviction
His confession must be more than what you know already. When a significant sin problem becomes public knowledge, typically, the person only confesses what everyone knows. However, if there is genuine conviction, you’ll sense a teachable spirit wanting to come clean: he’ll share more than you know.
Part of this process will be distinguishing between worldly sorrow and godly sorrow.
Four common aspects of worldly sorrow:
Five common aspects of godly sorrow:
Five Examining Questions
2: Parents
Teen problems are parenting problems too. I’m not accusing or saying the parents are responsible. But “no man is an island.” It would be disingenuous to suggest a child can live with parents for fifteen years and the parents not affecting them for good or evil.
Finally, you want to talk about the child having a stepdad.
3: Worship
The child has a worship disorder. We worship what we believe in as we move toward that “worthy object,” hoping it will provide what we crave. He sees porn as the object of his worship. More precisely, there is something that porn offers him that he desires.
But each person is tempted when he is lured and enticed by his own desire. Then desire when it has conceived gives birth to sin, and sin when it is fully grown brings forth death (James 1:14-15).
The most important question you’ll have to discern is this child’s problem with God. He has a deeply rooted theological problem. He deliberately chooses another “god” to give him what he wants rather than trusting the true and living God.
4: Sin
There are three ways to overcome sin: amputation (Matthew 5:30), mortification (Romans 8:13), and limitation (Hebrews 122).
You want to dig into Paul’s template for changing our lives:
To put off your old self, which belongs to your former manner of life and is corrupt through deceitful desires, and to be renewed in the spirit of your minds, and to put on the new self, created after the likeness of God in true righteousness and holiness (Ephesians 4:22-24).
5: Habits
There are two elements of habits to consider:
6: Community
Four elements that makeup good companions
Rick launched the Life Over Coffee global training network in 2008 to bring hope and help for you and others by creating resources that spark conversations for transformation. His primary responsibilities are resource creation and leadership development, which he does through speaking, writing, podcasting, and educating.
In 1990 he earned a BA in Theology and, in 1991, a BS in Education. In 1993, he received his ordination into Christian ministry, and in 2000 he graduated with an MA in Counseling from The Master’s University. In 2006 he was recognized as a Fellow of the Association of Certified Biblical Counselors (ACBC).