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One of the most vital things we do in our Mastermind Training course is to attempt to discern a student’s character and capacity. We do this to guard against mismatches: placing a future counselor in a counseling session when they are not qualified to help. Thus, they hurt the counselee.
And we urge you, brothers, admonish the idle, encourage the fainthearted, help the weak, be patient with them all (1 Thessalonians 5:14).
We would understand Jesus as a large soul individual. Paul would be similar. To get a better handle on this, you can think of our souls like our bodies. We are different physically, and we are different psychologically.
You have seen these internal, diverse capacities if you have more than one child. One child might tend to fear. Another child might have a tougher conscience. A third child has a faster processor (mental speed). The fourth child is always on the move (active).
1 – When dealing with a person, ask macro questions with your micro questions.
E.g., wife says my husband does not communicate. That’s the micro problem, but you want to know him in the macro: Does he ever talk?
E.g., my child is rebellious. Is he rebellious everywhere? “No, he’s not that way at school.”
2 – Are they literally unable to respond biblically?
E.g., a child with a “failure to thrive” condition cannot respond.
3 – There will be an interplay between organic and non-organic problems.
You will have to discern this, and it will always be different for each person.
4 – Each person is different according to their shaping influences.
There are five general categories of shaping influences: Adam, conditions, people, situations, and personal choices.
5 – Ask for third-party insight.
Nobody is omniscient. Only God knows all things, and it could prove wise to gain the opinions and perspectives of others.