Marriage Day 17: Three Steps to Be an Excellent Spouse

Marriage Day 17: Three Steps to Be an Excellent Spouse

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31-Day Marriage Devotion Resources

Have this mind among yourselves, which is yours in Christ Jesus, who, though he was in the form of God, did not count equality with God a thing to be grasped, but emptied himself, by taking the form of a servant, being born in the likeness of men. And being found in human form, he humbled himself by becoming obedient to the point of death, even death on a cross. Therefore God has highly exalted him and bestowed on him the name that is above every name, so that at the name of Jesus every knee should bow, in heaven and on earth and under the earth, and every tongue confess that Jesus Christ is Lord, to the glory of God the Father (Philippians 2:5-11).

This devotion is in a three-phase sequential order. The second step builds on the first, and the third relies upon the second. If you want to enjoy your marriage to the fullest, you must live out all three phases in the order presented.

Will I Die?

There was a need on our planet. Humanity rebelled against God and became depraved without any hope of a course correction. Jesus, the only right solution, decided to give up what He had with His Father to rescue us. What Christ did is the gospel, which is the prototype for how humans are to relate to each other. In marriage, both spouses are obligated to set aside their desires for each other’s mutual and reciprocal benefit. They imitate the gospel by cooperating with the Lord for His fame and their sanctification. There is always a sacrifice involved with ongoing care, and one of the most important questions you can ask is, “Will I die daily for my spouse?”

Will I Sanctify?

Your spouse is damaged goods. The fall brought depravity into all our lives. You picked a partner from the dinged and dented section of the store. Of course, the whole store was full of dinged and dented individuals. There are no perfect people from whom to choose a spouse. To put it plainly, the person you married has issues. The call to marriage is a call to work, as both spouses put in a sweat of the brow work ethic to make the marriage look like Christ and His Church. Are you cooperating with the Lord in the sanctification of your damaged spouse?

Will I Enjoy?

It is not a wrong motivation to work for the benefit of your labor. Some have said that love is an act without an expectation of anything in return. The Bible teaches a different perspective; there is a reward for work, which you should expect from your marriage. Jesus will receive the work of His hands (Hebrews 12:2; Ephesians 5:27). It does not have to be wrong to want to enjoy the benefits of your words and actions. However, it would be a mistake to demand benefits without doing the hard work to earn those benefits, and it would be wrong to sin against your spouse because they have yet to meet your expectations. The idea of sowing and reaping is not always negative. Are you enjoying the benefits of the work you have put into your marriage?

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Time to Reflect

  1. Will you die? Jesus set aside His life to create a better life for you. What does it look like to set aside what you want for the benefit of your spouse?
  2. Will you sanctify? Jesus humbled Himself to the cross, which opened the door for your salvation and sanctification. How is the Lord using your humble obedience to sanctify your spouse?
  3. Will you enjoy? Jesus’ exaltation came after He set aside what He had and obediently gave His life for you. How have you benefited from the work you have put into your marriage?

Practical Suggestion

Spend the next few days reflecting on Philippians 2:5-11 while asking the Lord to help you mature in any area where the gospel is weak in your life.

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