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What about you? How do you respond to trials? My question is not about being tried, but how do you react during those times when trouble comes and stays? To be discomforted in life is as assured as death and taxes. There are some things you can count on, and personal suffering is one of those things. It is part of the package that comes with the gift of life (Philippians 1:29).
Because suffering is guaranteed, it’s essential to reflect on how to respond when you don’t get your way—when disappointment comes knocking. If you listen to what I say, you will know who I am. Even though you cannot see my heart, you can discern my heart by what comes out of my mouth, and nothing will give you more clarity about my heart than in those moments when I do not get my way.
I can fake you out during seasons of personal comfort and self-control because there are no challenges or disruptions to my desires. It is during times when I do not get my way while being discomforted that you will realize my practical theology.
Through him, we have also obtained access by faith into this grace in which we stand, and we rejoice in hope of the glory of God. More than that, we rejoice in our sufferings, knowing that suffering produces endurance, and endurance produces character, and character produces hope (Romans 5:3-5).
Paul is teaching that our faith has given us access to the grace of God, and it is through that grace that we stand. The progression goes like this:
How are you living in the grace that God is providing you? Your response to suffering reveals the answer to my question.
Difficulties do not necessarily have a purpose in themselves. Suffering is suffering. Everybody suffers. Even the unregenerate world suffers. They become sick and die. They are in traffic accidents. They divorce just like the Christian community. The difference between the unregenerate person who suffers and the believer who suffers is God. Though our lost friends experience the realities of suffering, none of them find faith, grace, endurance, character, and hope.
Christians are the only ones who can experience God through suffering because they have a relationship with Him, and they understand that He is working in their adverse circumstances. It is God who is producing Christ in our lives through suffering. Suffering does not produce divine character qualities. If that were true, the lost person would mature through suffering like a Christian.
It is God working through our adversity, bringing out His good purposes in our lives. In the three illustrations, Biff, Mable, and Marge have two options. (1) They can either fixate on their problems or (2) center their thoughts on God, who is seeking to form Christ in them by the difficulties they are experiencing.
The words you choose to talk about your problems will provide the information you need to understand how much you need to calibrate your heart. The God-centered heart produces God-centered language according to the model that Paul lays out in Romans 5:3-5. This kind of person talks about his problems as one who is enduring through his issues—a person who is fortified even though suffering persists. The character of Christ, which the fruit of the Spirit can understand, will be evident to others through your speech patterns.
But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control; against such things there is no law (Galatians 5:22-23).
Those things will reveal the hope you have in God, as He steadies you through the storms of life, but if you are like me, you’re not at that place in your pursuit of Christlike maturity. And if you are like me, here are a few helpful questions for you to discuss with the Lord and your friends.
Father, if you are willing, remove this cup from me. Nevertheless, not my will, but yours, be done (Luke 22:42).
Christ died on a Roman cross. Let that sink in for a while. Living in a first-world culture can dupe you into believing that life is supposed to go according to all your desires. This problem is where a sound theology of suffering is essential to living well in God’s world.
When we align ourselves to God’s work in our lives, we are actively participating in His grace story: He is working in you to produce the fruit of the Spirit. God will not give you the life you desire, and He will provide you with the experience you need to produce the good that He wants for you.
This truth is just one of the many ways the gospel should practically function in your life. The longer you resist the good that He is seeking to produce in your life, the way He wants to provide it, the longer it will take you to experience the God of all comfort and the Father of mercies.
Your goal should not primarily be how to overcome your troubles. Your goal is to be comforted in your suffering by the comfort that God provides so you can comfort others.
Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of mercies and God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our affliction, so that we may be able to comfort those who are in any affliction, with the comfort with which we ourselves are comforted by God (2 Corinthians 1:3-4).
If your primary goal is to remove your suffering, you will more than likely live a miserable life. Life is not about “getting rid of your suffering” as though that is the chief aim for our lives (1 Corinthians 10:31). That is myopic thinking which is foolish, futile, and misses out on the good work that God is doing in your life.
Problem-centered thinking is a mindset that never sees God. The God-centered person approaches suffering from the expectation that God is working good in his life. He is patiently enduring, growing in character while living in hope.
The God-centered Christian is maturing through suffering because of what God is producing in him. He can do what he could not do before, which is to comfort others with the same comfort he has experienced from God. Do you want to be a discipler for Christ? God saved us to glorify Him by sharing His message of hope to as many people as possible.
He has called us to help others know and experience God in how we have experienced Him (John 4:29; 2 Corinthians 1:3-7). Because of the fall of Adam and the subsequent curse of suffering, we live in a world of hurting people. That is why all of us need to understand suffering and live in the grace that God provides.
For to this, you have been called, because Christ also suffered for you, leaving you an example, so that you might follow in his steps (1 Peter 2:21).
The mind that the gospel has reoriented perceives suffering as an opportunity to put Christ on display in the world. Below are a few faith statements that have this view in mind:
The call of God is not just about you feeling better or even getting over your problems. The purpose of knowing God is to be used by God. When you suffer, the question is not why me, but who else is struggling, and how can I help them? That is the question that God wants us to answer during our times of suffering.
That is how Paul understood his adversity in 2 Corinthians 1:3-7. God wants our holiness to be more important to us than our definition of happiness, which is why He is producing Christ in us through the crucible of suffering so we will be empowered or enabled to help others.
In addition to the questions I have sprinkled throughout this article, here are a few more for your consideration, mainly: how are you stewarding your trials, sufferings, adversities, and disappointments? From God’s worldview, which is the only correct worldview, we see things from His perspective. When you think about God and your suffering:
Only when you see suffering as purposeful will you be able to see suffering as powerful. Where is your focus in your times of adversity? With these things in mind, I have produced a “worship meter infographic” that comprises some of our more common responses to personal suffering, trouble, and life’s inconveniences. I have divided the worship meter into two parts.
Below is my list of some of the things that you see in the worship meter. I did not list them in any order of priority but separated them into two distinct camps. As you read the list or look at the worship meter, how are you generally characterized when trouble comes into your life? Where does the “red needle” land? Are you more of a whining worshiper or a praising worshiper?
Manifestations of the Whining Worshiper – Denial, Haughty, Anger, Depressed, Guilt, Jealous, Shame, Envy, Overwhelmed, Defeated, Discouragement, Resentment, Fear, Bitterness, Surprise: “Why me?”, Opposition to God, Blame, Wrong Expectation
Manifestations of the Praising Worshiper – Praise, Contentment, Peace, Gratitude, Trust, Purpose-filled, Clarity: God’s Worldview, Hope, Stability, Right Expectation, God-centered Confidence, Progress with God, Humility, Progress with Others, Anticipation, Endurance, Christlike Disciple-maker, Comfort Others
Rick launched the Life Over Coffee global training network in 2008 to bring hope and help for you and others by creating resources that spark conversations for transformation. His primary responsibilities are resource creation and leadership development, which he does through speaking, writing, podcasting, and educating.
In 1990 he earned a BA in Theology and, in 1991, a BS in Education. In 1993, he received his ordination into Christian ministry, and in 2000 he graduated with an MA in Counseling from The Master’s University. In 2006 he was recognized as a Fellow of the Association of Certified Biblical Counselors (ACBC).